How To Give A Handjob That’s Unforgettable

The best way to learn what your partner likes when it comes to handjobs is to watch them jerk off. If your partner is shy about demonstrating their technique, try blindfolding them; many people feel less inhibited when they can’t see someone watching them.

Bear in mind that you’ll probably need to handle your partner a bit more carefully than they do themselves, but the way they stroke themselves can reveal a lot about how they like to be touched and the speed and strength of grip they prefer.

Although men produce a small amount of pre-ejaculatory fluid when they’re turned on, it’s rarely enough to go around. No one likes a dry handjob so use some lube to stop things from getting uncomfortable.

A couple of pumps of Durex Play Feel Lube will feel smooth and slick – it’s silicone-based, which means it stays slippery for longer than water-based varieties. Try running the bottle under a hot tap to warm it up first, before stroking it over the length of the penis.

A comfortable position to try is with your partner lying on their back, while you kneel between their legs or at their side – this gives you a clear view and easy access to all the important parts!

Once you’re a little more confident, try straddling your partner’s chest with your back to their face; they’ll appreciate the view, and you’ll probably feel more relaxed knowing they’re not watching your every move.

You can also experiment with standing behind them and reaching your hand around… he could even wrap his hand lightly over yours and guide your movements. 

If your partner is uncircumcised, move the foreskin gently with the motion of your hand. Remember that completely pulling the foreskin back and fully exposing the head of the penis, might be too intense.

If your lover is circumcised, the glands are likely to be slightly less sensitive and you may find he needs more lube, pressure, or stimulation.

The basic handjob movement is an up-and-down motion. Keep your actions fluid, not jerky. Start slowly, wrapping your dominant hand around his erect penis with about the same tension that you’d use to hold a glass of water, and run it back and forth.

Follow the natural angle of the penis; an erection may not be at a perfect 90 degrees. Your hand should retain constant contact with the skin; close your fingers together a little as you reach the head, then loosen them as you travel back down towards the base.

If you feel more confident, try varying your technique. Using two hands in a cycle of smooth upstrokes; your left hand beginning to travel up from the base just as your right reaches the head.

See whether your partner responds well to you gently twisting your hand back and forth as you slide it up and down; explore whether they enjoy you rubbing your thumb in small circles over the tip of the penis and frenulum (the delicate ‘string’ of tissue connecting the head to the shaft).

The body has lots of erogenous zones to explore...

Whilst you’re caressing the penis, you could also cup the testicles, massage the perineum, or stroke the insides of your partner’s thighs. Stimulating these other sensitive areas as well will get them really worked up and hot!

Remember, everyone has different likes and dislikes, so it’s just a case of sussing them out.

Encourage your partner to give you supportive feedback on how the handjob feels, and don’t be afraid to ask questions – they’ll love how curious you are to discover what they like.

Some like a steady pumping pace as they’re about to climax, whilst others prefer you to speed things up. Communication is key here so check with them what they like.

After climax, the penis is usually too sensitive to be touched at all – step back for a moment so they can revel in the release.

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