First things first, this isn’t an article about all the adventurous sex positions you can try. It’s not that we don’t love to try new things but sometimes it’s good to get back to basics, especially when you’re trying to break down barriers. If you’ve just got together and are struggling to let go in the bedroom or have been together a while and can feel a distance growing, here are five 5 ways to boost intimacy in bed.
1. Masturbation
It’s not always possible for two people in a relationship to have synchronised sex drives. Sometimes mismatched libidos can result in one of you feeling sexually frustrated and the other feeling obliged to please, when they’re just not feeling it.
Being comfortable enough to masturbate in front of each other is a great solution, as you can release sexual frustration, whilst knowing your partner is fine with it. In fact, experimenting with masturbation can encourage your significant other to get involved, too. It’s a win-win situation!
2. Pillow talk
Talking about your emotions in bed might seem like a bit of a passion killer but believe it or not, pillow talk can actually help to spice up your sex life. Communication is key to good sex and a post-sex chat and cuddle under the sheets is a great way to open up to each other, strengthening your connection.
Talking in bed helps to create a relaxed vibe and it’s a great opportunity to discuss your likes and dislikes, in and out of the bedroom. Increased intimacy and understanding always leads to better sex as you feel more comfortable with each other.
3. Easy sex positions
Whilst experimenting with obscure sex positions is a laugh, sometimes the simplest ones can achieve the best results. Because who wants to stand up against a wall when you can be in the comfort of your own bed?
Easy sex positions like missionary generally involve more kissing and intimacy, and you’re also already in bed ready for a cuddle after. Some of our favourite lazy sex positions involve face to face, sitting, straddling and from behind.
4. Lube up
There’s a huge misconception that lubricant is used purely to help vaginal dryness and discomfort during sex. Whilst it does help aid in this, lube is also great for enhancing pleasure and is a fantastic addition to the bedroom for all couples.
The huge range of lubes available can provide different sensations, temperatures and flavours. From oral and foreplay to sexual intercourse, introducing a lubricant into the mix can seriously up the pleasure factor.
5. Get kinky
There’s nothing wrong with a bit of vanilla sex, but it doesn’t mean that you can’t experiment with some light bondage as well, right? Getting kinky isn’t just about breaking out of the comfort zone and livening things up – sharing your weird and wonderful desires with each other increases intimacy.
Getting kinky doesn’t have to involve whips and chains, try 50 Shades of Play or turn up the erotica with our range of sex toys. From cock rings to vibrators – there are lots of ways to break the mould. It isn’t just about props either, simply whispering in your partner’s ear what you want to do to them is bound to get you both going.
